I am sitting here on the way home from my parents and I am contemplating methods of transportation. I have traveled in the most common ways; air, car, bus, train, and even by boat. All methods have their benefits and drawbacks. Since becoming a Muslim, and wearing Muslim attire in a post-Sept 11th world, these benefits and drawbacks have evolved.
I have had some interesting experiences on all methods of transportation, dealing with the recent searches have been no exception. Although these things seem to be coming to a boiling point recently because of the TSA protests, and different political campaigns trying to discourage invasive searches, Muslims, and minorities in general have been facing adversity using public transportation for years.
I feel as though I am caught in a whirlwind of attention to these "new" regulations allowing searches, and "invasion of privacy", and my personal experiences have only started recently due to my "wardrobe change". Minorities have been dealing with problems getting from here to there for a lot longer than within this last decade, as news reports would like to advertise. Although this "Post 911" era has drawn attention to certain religious descrimination, prejudice is not a new item on the menu. I am not just talking about famous events such as the Rosa Parks story. Rosa Parks has a fabulous story, however it is one that has been told. There are many "untold" discriminations in this country that the powers at be would like to pretend do not happen
. Before becoming a Muslim, I experienced the "DWB" phenomenon, or "Driving While Black". A friend of mine, a young black male, were driving back from a movie, a cop pulled us over. My headlight happened to be out and the following events, although shocking to me, were not to him, as he later explained to me that things like this happened to him all the time. The police officers interrogated me because they thought because I was in the car with a black male, I could only be either a drug addict, or a prostitute. They also proceeded to explain that I could not own a vehicle this "nice", so they were convinced I was renting it. Considering the amount of trash (estaghferallah) I keep in my backseat, the possibility of my car being a rental car was indeed humourous. I proceeded to provided proof of ownership of the vehicle, explain that were just happened to be taking a shortcut through a bad neighborhood and I was neither a prostitute, nor a drug dealer. I was throughly shaken by the events. This 23 year old African American male was not. He then told me about the "DWB" scenario, and how often events like this were taking place all over the country.
I never understood what he felt like. I always felt, honestly, that he had to be exagerrating and that in no way could things like this be happening everyday in my suburban love bubble. But I was wrong, as I found out after becoming a Muslim. The same people whom had once looked me in the face and had nothing but good things to say were now ignorin me, and whispering behind my back over something as trivial as a head scarf. I can't imagine people judging me for my skin color, the way God made me. Everyday I learn how lucky I am and how many hardships God has made me free from, and how lucky I truly am. Many people are prejudiced against, and I feel a little guilty for complaining, and being so self conscious about wearing hijab. I feel that I need to just be stronger, and stop worrying so much about other people, because there are many more people who have it a lot tougher than me.
Saturday, December 4, 2010
Please help me volunteer with orphans in Morocco
I really would like to go volunteer at an orphanage in Rabat, Morocco with Cross Cultural Solutions, however the trip is quit pricey. Please do not let me miss this wonderful opportunity. Let you be rewarded for my volunteer work as well insha'Allah. Any little bit you can give would move mountains. I really need help making this happen! Allah yatik al afia!
crossculturalsolutions.org
Saturday, November 27, 2010
Thanksgiving
Thanksgiving is an American holiday. Therefore being an American Muslim, I traveled home to my parents house to stuff myself with turkey and pumpkin pie. As you all know, I have always been a little nervous coming home to my hometown, since I have become a Muslim. My hijab has always felt like an obstacle between my old life and my new one. This time was quite different...I made it through my father picking me up at the train station, Thanksgiving dinner, and Black Friday before I realized I had been wearing my hijab without thinking the entire time. It felt great...it was like...all of the "super awareness" I had was washed away. My family and I had a great time...not like before...something better than before. Helping my mother make pies and dinner, listening and playing music with my brother....I felt like we haved moved into new territory. As I walked along the water as the sunset, I realized that the strangled feeling I got everytime I went home was gone. My hometown no longer felt like a liability, just a place where my family still lived, and where I had begun my life. I hope this is indiciation of times to come...thank you all for your dua and prayers...
Wednesday, November 10, 2010
My Airport Experience
The last airport excursion I had was a flight to Chicago for the ISNA convention. It was not a happy experience for me. I was searched repeatedly and treated really junky. I felt like everyone was looking at me like I did not belong. I had never been treated like that before in an airport. I had even worn hijab previously while flying, and had NEVER been treated even similar. I thought about what variable had changed. I realized my previous two flights wearing hijab, I was wearing "American" or "Western" clothing. This last flight, I had thrown on an abaya for ease. This past weekend as I flew to Indiana, I wore more "Western" hijab. I was again treated well and was not patted down, other than a quick feel behind my scarf. I could not believe how differently I was treated. Coincidence? I think not. However, I will need to travel again to make sure...
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
My Weekend Back Home
This past weekend I traveled to visit my parents. Normally this is a very stressful time because I am self conscious about how Islam is affecting our relationship. I had a discussion with a friend (may God bless her for her advice), and she told me to be bold and face them head on and not dance around the issues. I decided that I would ask Allah for as much strength as possible in becoming a better Muslim and facing my family. I decided that I would wear hijab the entire time I was in my hometown. Previously I have not been able to wear it out of weakness and fear. I went to lunch with old friends, wore it shopping with my mother, and hiking with my family. I sensed immense dread when I was walking on the boardwalk with my mother, as I spotted from a distance my very self shy and self conscious brother and his friends. My heart sank as I prepared for his rejection, and his embarassment. I decided to call to him first, maybe the pain would be better if experience more quickly, like pulling off a band-aid. As my blonde, blue eyed brother, strode towards me, I braced myself for the terrorist jokes, the ridicule, the scapegoat of his adolescent awareness of anything non traditional, sharply aware of his sister, the Muslim. All six foot two of him captured me up in the strongest, surest hug I have had from him in years. Wordlessly he cradled me, as a younger sibling, proud to embrace his older sister, his older sister, the Muslim.
Sunday, October 17, 2010
Becoming a Stronger Muslim
As I have reflected on the past year since my conversion...and how much I have accomplished...I have also found my weakness, which I have shared some of my thoughts about in my last post. I believe that it is true..."assimilation" is impossible. Certain people will never respect the fact that I am Muslim, whether I am a "scary" Muslim or a "cool" Muslim. I have found an verse that is really helping me. I have written it out on a piece of paper and posted it on my cubicle wall. I read it five or six times a day. I really feel that it speaks to my situation.
" So patiently persevere: for verily the promise of Allah is true: nor let those shake thy firmness, who have (themselves) no certainty of faith. " Surah Al Room 60
For me it is basically reaffirming the fact that I should do what is best for me as a Muslim and not worry about any one elses opinion. I should strive to be the best Muslim I can and know that nothing will happen unless Allah wills it.
When I meet people who are blind to the truth of Islam I think of this verse...
Thus does Allah seal up the hearts of those who understand not. Al Room 59
I feel such a connection between every Muslim on this planet....it is as if every human being was my sibling, but every Muslim is like a twin of mine....
I know that if I am patient, Allah will bless me with the friends that I deserve, and will send me people to stop my lonliness. I feel as if I have not been close to someone in a long time because of the transition I have made.
This Surah describes how I feel about my reversion to Islam....I feel as though a huge weight was lifted...no longer am I carrying the universe on my back...I no longer had to worry about why I was in existence...I had nothing to fear anymore but Allah......my life has become more worry free than when I was a child...
Surah 94. Solace, Consolation, Relief
1. Have We not expanded thee thy breast?-
2. And removed from thee thy burden
3. The which did gall thy back?-
4. And raised high the esteem (in which) thou (art held)?
5. So, verily, with every difficulty, there is relief:
6. Verily, with every difficulty there is relief.
7. Therefore, when thou art free (from thine immediate task), still labour hard,
8. And to thy Lord turn (all) thy attention.
Please make duah for me that I become a great Muslim...
Salaam wa alaikum
" So patiently persevere: for verily the promise of Allah is true: nor let those shake thy firmness, who have (themselves) no certainty of faith. " Surah Al Room 60
For me it is basically reaffirming the fact that I should do what is best for me as a Muslim and not worry about any one elses opinion. I should strive to be the best Muslim I can and know that nothing will happen unless Allah wills it.
When I meet people who are blind to the truth of Islam I think of this verse...
Thus does Allah seal up the hearts of those who understand not. Al Room 59
I feel such a connection between every Muslim on this planet....it is as if every human being was my sibling, but every Muslim is like a twin of mine....
I know that if I am patient, Allah will bless me with the friends that I deserve, and will send me people to stop my lonliness. I feel as if I have not been close to someone in a long time because of the transition I have made.
This Surah describes how I feel about my reversion to Islam....I feel as though a huge weight was lifted...no longer am I carrying the universe on my back...I no longer had to worry about why I was in existence...I had nothing to fear anymore but Allah......my life has become more worry free than when I was a child...
Surah 94. Solace, Consolation, Relief
1. Have We not expanded thee thy breast?-
2. And removed from thee thy burden
3. The which did gall thy back?-
4. And raised high the esteem (in which) thou (art held)?
5. So, verily, with every difficulty, there is relief:
6. Verily, with every difficulty there is relief.
7. Therefore, when thou art free (from thine immediate task), still labour hard,
8. And to thy Lord turn (all) thy attention.
Please make duah for me that I become a great Muslim...
Salaam wa alaikum
Saturday, October 2, 2010
Drawing the Line Between Who I Was and Who I Hope To Be
I'm probably not alone in the fact that my conversion to Islam has severely dampened my social life. I used to not be able to go five minutes without my phone ringing....now...days go by....I have been isolated from my previous world....At first I blamed the fact that I had changed my ways so people needed time to adjust, and that it was just something I had to get over. Now I am realizing that I have not completely let go of my old life.
I discovered this notion last night as I was sitting in a restaurant with my coworkers. None of my coworkers are Muslim, or really knew to much about it until I came along. As we were sitting there at the restaurant table on a friday night celebrating our recent certification, all of them downed beer after beer. For the past two years I have been tricking myself into believing that I needed to somehow make them feel comfortable with Islam by "bending" my comfort zone. If they see me in a place like this restaurant on friday night...somehow they wont think Islam is super strict and will maybe soften their resistance to it a bit. I realized that all this was accomplishing was changing their opinion of ME not the religion. A coworker actually slipped alcohol into my drink thinking that I was "trapped" and needed to be "freed" from my cell of non alcoholic nights out. I know this person (well at least I chose to believe) that this person did not mean anything by it, and were just trying to see if I liked alcohol, in some way that didn't have me consciously choosing to drink. I felt so terrible and violated. These people were not learning about Islam by being around me at all. I thought that if I "infiltrated the front lines" of DC's youth, than maybe even one of them would come out of this with something worth my discomfort. NOPE. All I have been doing is ruining my progress in my deen. May God forgive me and them.
I discovered this notion last night as I was sitting in a restaurant with my coworkers. None of my coworkers are Muslim, or really knew to much about it until I came along. As we were sitting there at the restaurant table on a friday night celebrating our recent certification, all of them downed beer after beer. For the past two years I have been tricking myself into believing that I needed to somehow make them feel comfortable with Islam by "bending" my comfort zone. If they see me in a place like this restaurant on friday night...somehow they wont think Islam is super strict and will maybe soften their resistance to it a bit. I realized that all this was accomplishing was changing their opinion of ME not the religion. A coworker actually slipped alcohol into my drink thinking that I was "trapped" and needed to be "freed" from my cell of non alcoholic nights out. I know this person (well at least I chose to believe) that this person did not mean anything by it, and were just trying to see if I liked alcohol, in some way that didn't have me consciously choosing to drink. I felt so terrible and violated. These people were not learning about Islam by being around me at all. I thought that if I "infiltrated the front lines" of DC's youth, than maybe even one of them would come out of this with something worth my discomfort. NOPE. All I have been doing is ruining my progress in my deen. May God forgive me and them.
Saturday, September 25, 2010
Hijab Struggle
Salaam wa alaikum everyone....
I'm not sure if I am the only revert to Islam that struggles with hijab (or the only Muslimah in general), but sometimes I feel downright singled out when I cover. When I am in my new home of Alexandria, VA where Muslims are a common sight, and veiled women draw similar stares that sidewalk does, it is easy to feel peaceful in my modest attire. However, when I visit my hometown, or places where Muslims are a rare sight, and "jihad" means "holy war" and "WWJD (What would Jesus do)?" bumper stickers plaster minivans...I feel...exposed. My innermost thoughts, desires and beliefs are sitting there wrapped around my face. Not that I am ashamed to be Muslim....I just don't like people placing me into a certain category without even meeting me....I understand that is human nature...but it just feels more exaggerated when I am wearing extra clothing.
During a recent camping trip with my husband and non- muslim family, we visited a beach from my childhood and I felt particularly uncomfortable. Although I wore my "burquini" I did not don my headscarf on the beach. It happened to be "Biker Week", and although I know I am classifying "bikers" into categories as well, but I just felt like "Biker Week" and Islam do not mix. I still continued to be as modest as possible in my dress and actions, but from the neck up my progress as a Muslim woman had taken a big step back. I know God only knows what is truly in my heart, but I feel downright sick when I am wearing a scarf in a "hostile" environment.
This is a small part of the many weaknesses in my Deen, and I hope that my words can offer some comfort to some struggling sisters. You are not alone. I pray that we will one day find the strength to be "Constant hijabis" and to deal with any kind of criticism that comes our way.
I'm not sure if I am the only revert to Islam that struggles with hijab (or the only Muslimah in general), but sometimes I feel downright singled out when I cover. When I am in my new home of Alexandria, VA where Muslims are a common sight, and veiled women draw similar stares that sidewalk does, it is easy to feel peaceful in my modest attire. However, when I visit my hometown, or places where Muslims are a rare sight, and "jihad" means "holy war" and "WWJD (What would Jesus do)?" bumper stickers plaster minivans...I feel...exposed. My innermost thoughts, desires and beliefs are sitting there wrapped around my face. Not that I am ashamed to be Muslim....I just don't like people placing me into a certain category without even meeting me....I understand that is human nature...but it just feels more exaggerated when I am wearing extra clothing.
During a recent camping trip with my husband and non- muslim family, we visited a beach from my childhood and I felt particularly uncomfortable. Although I wore my "burquini" I did not don my headscarf on the beach. It happened to be "Biker Week", and although I know I am classifying "bikers" into categories as well, but I just felt like "Biker Week" and Islam do not mix. I still continued to be as modest as possible in my dress and actions, but from the neck up my progress as a Muslim woman had taken a big step back. I know God only knows what is truly in my heart, but I feel downright sick when I am wearing a scarf in a "hostile" environment.
This is a small part of the many weaknesses in my Deen, and I hope that my words can offer some comfort to some struggling sisters. You are not alone. I pray that we will one day find the strength to be "Constant hijabis" and to deal with any kind of criticism that comes our way.
Sunday, September 12, 2010
Quran Burning and this other Craziness....
I really did not want to write about that raving fool in Florida, but since I watched the news this morning....now I have no choice. I feel like there is a double standard in this country with freedom of speech. religion, etc.....are you telling me that if an Iman decided to do a Bible burning party there would not be an uproar?? The Secretary of Defense actually called this jerk??? I feel like that implies that the only reason the country even cares that he is doing this....is because they are afraid of retaliation....like we are some scary waring group, not people with feelings and love for our religion...I swear I want to cry at the though of the Holy Quran burning...does anyone else feel like the fact that he wants to set ANYTHING on fire makes him unstable.....
In other news Happy Ramadan and Happy Eid!
http://www.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/09/10/ramadan.roadtrip.folo/index.html?hpt=C1
In other news Happy Ramadan and Happy Eid!
http://www.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/09/10/ramadan.roadtrip.folo/index.html?hpt=C1
Tuesday, July 27, 2010
Saturday, July 10, 2010
ISNA Convention
Salaam wa alaikum everyone!
I got the chance to attend the 47th Annual ISNA Convention in Rosemont, IL over the holiday weekend al hamdililah. I was so excited to be around so many muslims! As a revert to Islam, I feel such a connection with the people around me in a setting like that. I thought the convention was beautiful and fulfilling and TOTALLY worth the time/money. When I go next year insha'Allah I would like to make some changes however. Number one I would not stay in the Rosemont Hotel...I'm going to stay at the Hyatt.....the Rosemont was very rude and I did NOT feel welcome there. We ate at the Hyatt everyday because the Hyatt changed their menu to Halal for the convention! The Rosemont had nothing but pork with a side of pork. I also will try to do more research on the events so I can plan out my weekend instead of wandering around aimlessly. I had the best time and I really look forward to next year insha'Allah!
Monday, June 14, 2010
Can't a Hijabi Get An Education?
Salaam wa alaikum,
As I sat at my work desk today I was playing with my log in for the Graduate program I will start in the fall insha'Allah. I got a big blow to my anxiety threshold when I found out my tuition and fees for 1 class will be $4000. I don't qualify for financial aid because it is a certificate program!!!!!!!!!!!!! How will I pay for this??? I want to go to school more than anything right now. I hate only having a Bachelor's but I couldn't afford to continue.....now I can't afford to go back!!!! Aren't there any scholarships for broke Muslimahs.......??????????? I am so depressed.....I want to get a Saudi Govt scholarship!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Why doesn't our country send anyone to school??? I want to stop working full time and be able to devote my time to getting my master's degree. I also want to be able to throw myself into my research without having to worry about how to put food on my table and pay my rent. If you have $4000 in disposable income...please donate to the sendkatetocollegeforhermasters fund!!! ha ha ha ha ha ha
Please everyone pray for me that I can find this money somewhere insha'Allah....
Salaam,
Katie
As I sat at my work desk today I was playing with my log in for the Graduate program I will start in the fall insha'Allah. I got a big blow to my anxiety threshold when I found out my tuition and fees for 1 class will be $4000. I don't qualify for financial aid because it is a certificate program!!!!!!!!!!!!! How will I pay for this??? I want to go to school more than anything right now. I hate only having a Bachelor's but I couldn't afford to continue.....now I can't afford to go back!!!! Aren't there any scholarships for broke Muslimahs.......??????????? I am so depressed.....I want to get a Saudi Govt scholarship!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Why doesn't our country send anyone to school??? I want to stop working full time and be able to devote my time to getting my master's degree. I also want to be able to throw myself into my research without having to worry about how to put food on my table and pay my rent. If you have $4000 in disposable income...please donate to the sendkatetocollegeforhermasters fund!!! ha ha ha ha ha ha
Please everyone pray for me that I can find this money somewhere insha'Allah....
Salaam,
Katie
Thursday, June 10, 2010
Hijabi in the Workplace
I do my best to pray at work. I do wudu in the bathroom then go pray in the library so I can have some peace and quiet. Most days when I take off my scarf to do wudu it spurs a relgious discussion. The project manager of the entire company I work for came in the bathroom when I was washing. Seeing me without my scarf prompted her to ask when I could take it off and when I can't. Who are you suppossed to wear it in front of? Can your husband see you without it? Do these people think that my arms are invisibly handcuffed to my body and that I cannot lift the scarf off of my head? That I believe I will burst into flames if I removed the scarf. It is not glued to my head! If I wanted to take it off I could...if I didn't want to wear it I wouldn't! It is my way of being modest and trying to please Allah with my modesty. It is also a sign to all that I am Muslim so I do not do certain things. It deters the men in my office from feeling like they can flirt with me; it makes me feel comfortable so I can interact with my male coworkers without feeling like they are looking at my beauty. Hijab is a blessing to Muslim women so they can move freely in society without being bothered. I don't need to focus on my appearance to strangers. How stressfull getting ready for school used to be before hijab! I used to have to get up hours before school so I could make my apprearance "appropriate". I had to worry about being sexually attractive at all times. Those times were the most stressfull, anxious and unhappy times of my life. Focusing on outer beauty and judging people by their looks leads to unhappiness. I will NEVER go back to worrying like that on a daily basis. My hijab takes care of all of that worry.
Salaam,
Kate
Salaam,
Kate
Wednesday, June 2, 2010
Inspirational Young Lady Masha'Allah
This young lady brought tears to my eyes. I empathize with her most greatly and I wish that Allah will bless her for her struggles. My mother even enjoyed the article!!
http://www.oprah.com/spirit/Choosing-to-Wear-the-Muslim-Headscarf/1
Choosing To Wear the Muslim Headscarf
http://www.oprah.com/spirit/Choosing-to-Wear-the-Muslim-Headscarf/1
Choosing To Wear the Muslim Headscarf
Thursday, May 27, 2010
Please Support Me and Get Fair Representation in the Media for ISLAM
http://www.examiner.com/x-51223-Baltimore-Islam-Examiner
Salaam wa alaikum,
I have just been asked to be the Islam Examiner for Baltimore al hamdililah. However I need your help to make this a success and to keep representation of Muslims in the media.....PLEASE SUBSCRIBE OR COMMENT ON MY ARTICLES insha'Allah....
the more comments/ subscribers the more they will allow me to write...therefore the more Muslims will be represented...thanks and I hope this is a success insha'Allah....
Baltimore Examiner
Katie
Salaam wa alaikum,
I have just been asked to be the Islam Examiner for Baltimore al hamdililah. However I need your help to make this a success and to keep representation of Muslims in the media.....PLEASE SUBSCRIBE OR COMMENT ON MY ARTICLES insha'Allah....
the more comments/ subscribers the more they will allow me to write...therefore the more Muslims will be represented...thanks and I hope this is a success insha'Allah....
Baltimore Examiner
Katie
Monday, May 24, 2010
Dr Mohammed Tahir ul-Qadri and his Ruling on Religious Freedom
Dr Mohammed Tahir ul-Qadri recently released his ruling on terrorism and jihad. His fatwa discusses jihad and fiqh of violence and force. The 600 page fatwa from the popular Pakistani sheikh, uses the Quran and other Islamic sources to detail the facts in Islamic law towards violence and suicide. As most Muslims know, suicide is considered haram, or forbidden in the religion, as well as unprovoked violence, and the killing innocent people. His detailed and extensive writing quotes numerous, and credible sources dealing with Islam. Hopefully this will clear up some of the misconceptions of Islam that is prominent in the media today. Most Americans have the idea that terrorism and Islam are synonymous; or that blowing up people is something in the Quran. This is simply an unfounded opinion that one can only hope will go the way of the dinosaur.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=skVWAiTecKk
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=skVWAiTecKk
Friday, May 21, 2010
Awesome Article masha'Allah
http://www.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://www.pulitzer.org/imported-data/year/2007/feature-writing/works/0301.jpg&imgrefurl=http://www.pulitzer.org/archives/7140&usg=__YWGBoMYOLLVRlIkty-gSwPKlv1s=&h=294&w=445&sz=159&hl=en&start=20&sig2=3AwtJlzggQej8OQkWXgvkg&um=1&itbs=1&tbnid=Rv7nAFRh1NQgSM:&tbnh=84&tbnw=127&prev=/images%3Fq%3Dmuslim%2Bbabies%26um%3D1%26hl%3Den%26sa%3DN%26tbs%3Disch:1&ei=Cfv2S-iKKoH98AbH55i3Cg
Article
Article
This is Another Article I thought was Interesting Article by City Hijabi
I thought this was a great article (masha'Allah) posted by City Hijabi available at her blog
http://hijabiinthecity.blogspot.com/2009/07/hijabi-killed-ina-lil-ahi-wa-ina.html
HIjabi Killed (Ina-lil-ahi-wa-ina-lilayhi rajioon)
Egypt mourns 'headscarf martyr' (BBC article)
The body of a Muslim woman, killed in a German courtroom by a man convicted of insulting her religion, has been taken back to her native Egypt for burial.
The body of a Muslim woman, killed in a German courtroom by a man convicted of insulting her religion, has been taken back to her native Egypt for burial.
Marwa Sherbini, 31, was stabbed 18 times by Axel W, who is now under arrest in Dresden for suspected murder.
Husband Elwi Okaz is also in a critical condition in hospital, after being injured as he tried to save his wife.
Ms Sherbini had sued her killer after he called her a "terrorist" because of her headscarf.
The case has attracted much attention in Egypt and the Muslim world.
German prosecutors have said the 28-year-old attacker, identified only as Axel W, was driven by a deep hatred of foreigners and Muslims.
'Martyr'
Medics were unable to save Ms Sherbini who was three months pregnant with her second child. Her three-year-old son was with the family in court when she was killed.
Medics were unable to save Ms Sherbini who was three months pregnant with her second child. Her three-year-old son was with the family in court when she was killed.
Axel W and Ms Sherbini and family were in court for his appeal against a fine of 750 euros ($1,050) for insulting her in 2008, apparently because she was wearing the Muslim headscarf or Hijab.
Newspapers in Egypt have expressed outrage at the case, asking how it was allowed to happen and dubbing Ms Sherbini "the martyr of the Hijab".
Senior Egyptian officials and German diplomatic staff attended the funeral in Alexandria along with hundreds of mourners.
Media reports say Mr Okaz was injured both by the attacker and when a policeman opened fire in the courtroom.
I Saw This Article about Niqab Posted on Someone Else's Blog I decided to REPOST
By Jonathan Montpetit, The Canadian Press
MONTREAL - After months of balancing a woman's religious beliefs with her desire to learn French, the Quebec government stepped into her classroom to offer an ultimatum: take off the niqab or drop the course.
The woman opted to keep her Islamic face-covering and has filed a human-rights complaint against the government.
In a province where the government frequently faces accusations of doing too much to accommodate minorities, these actions have prompted a fair bit of praise.
The woman began taking a French course designed for immigrants at a Montreal college in February but she refused to remove her niqab while men were present.
The college was initially willing to accommodate her, but eventually balked as her demands escalated.
According to a report in a Montreal newspaper, she was allowed to give an oral with her back to the class and asked men to move so they wouldn't face each other.
The breaking point occurred when the woman again refused to take off the niqab, though teachers had stressed it was essential they see her face to correct her enunciation and facial expressions.
In what appears to be a highly unusual move, provincial Immigration Minister Yolande James intervened. Officials from her department, acting with the minister's knowledge, met with the woman to discuss her options.
"The government has specific pedagogical objectives in its French courses," said James's spokesman, Luc Fortin.
"We couldn't accept that these objectives, or the learning environment in the class, be compromised."
Several groups, including several teachers' unions, applauded the government for drawing a line in the sand. So did moderate Muslim groups.
"When people come to Canada we're not coming to the Islamic Republic of Canada," said Raheel Raza, a Muslim women's-rights activist who has argued for a public ban on religious face coverings.
"We are coming here because we want that freedom, we want the separation of church and state."
But one Muslim group disagreed.
The Canadian Muslim Forum, which claimed the woman was intimidated by other members of her class, said the move amounts to a misreading of the situation.
"In Quebec people have the right to wear what they want," said spokeswoman Kathy Malas.
"It's not a question of reasonable accommodation at all. She was complaining about how she was being treated by other males in the class."
The woman's name is being withheld for privacy reasons.
The question of whether to accommodate religious or ethnic minorities, and if so how much, has simmered beneath the surface of Quebec politics for several years.
When tensions erupted in 2007 over a series of highly publicized controversies, the government commissioned a $5-million study to quell the matter.
But in recent weeks the so-called reasonable-accommodation debate has vaulted back into the headlines, much to the dismay of those who helped prepare the commission's report.
Since its release in 2008, they note, the Liberal government has failed to implement most of its recommendations.
In fact, critics have accused the Charest government of altogether avoiding any discussion of awkward, identity-based issues.
"The government is paying the price for its passivity," said Jocelyn Maclure, a philosophy professor at the Universite de Laval who served as a consultant on the Bouchard-Taylor commission.
The commission's suggestions included creating a public body to provide training on accommodations, and better informing immigrant women about Quebec cultural norms.
But others warned of the danger of reading too much into what is essentially an isolated case.
"It's not like behind this woman there are 2,000 other niqab-wearing women who are about to make similar kinds of demands," said Daniel Weinstock, who, like Maclure, was a consultant to Bouchard-Taylor.
"These cases don't reflect the reality of what's going on out there. For every one case like this, which is problematic, there are a hundred that are dealt with in a very reasonable manner."
MONTREAL - After months of balancing a woman's religious beliefs with her desire to learn French, the Quebec government stepped into her classroom to offer an ultimatum: take off the niqab or drop the course.
The woman opted to keep her Islamic face-covering and has filed a human-rights complaint against the government.
In a province where the government frequently faces accusations of doing too much to accommodate minorities, these actions have prompted a fair bit of praise.
The woman began taking a French course designed for immigrants at a Montreal college in February but she refused to remove her niqab while men were present.
The college was initially willing to accommodate her, but eventually balked as her demands escalated.
According to a report in a Montreal newspaper, she was allowed to give an oral with her back to the class and asked men to move so they wouldn't face each other.
The breaking point occurred when the woman again refused to take off the niqab, though teachers had stressed it was essential they see her face to correct her enunciation and facial expressions.
In what appears to be a highly unusual move, provincial Immigration Minister Yolande James intervened. Officials from her department, acting with the minister's knowledge, met with the woman to discuss her options.
"The government has specific pedagogical objectives in its French courses," said James's spokesman, Luc Fortin.
"We couldn't accept that these objectives, or the learning environment in the class, be compromised."
Several groups, including several teachers' unions, applauded the government for drawing a line in the sand. So did moderate Muslim groups.
"When people come to Canada we're not coming to the Islamic Republic of Canada," said Raheel Raza, a Muslim women's-rights activist who has argued for a public ban on religious face coverings.
"We are coming here because we want that freedom, we want the separation of church and state."
But one Muslim group disagreed.
The Canadian Muslim Forum, which claimed the woman was intimidated by other members of her class, said the move amounts to a misreading of the situation.
"In Quebec people have the right to wear what they want," said spokeswoman Kathy Malas.
"It's not a question of reasonable accommodation at all. She was complaining about how she was being treated by other males in the class."
The woman's name is being withheld for privacy reasons.
The question of whether to accommodate religious or ethnic minorities, and if so how much, has simmered beneath the surface of Quebec politics for several years.
When tensions erupted in 2007 over a series of highly publicized controversies, the government commissioned a $5-million study to quell the matter.
But in recent weeks the so-called reasonable-accommodation debate has vaulted back into the headlines, much to the dismay of those who helped prepare the commission's report.
Since its release in 2008, they note, the Liberal government has failed to implement most of its recommendations.
In fact, critics have accused the Charest government of altogether avoiding any discussion of awkward, identity-based issues.
"The government is paying the price for its passivity," said Jocelyn Maclure, a philosophy professor at the Universite de Laval who served as a consultant on the Bouchard-Taylor commission.
The commission's suggestions included creating a public body to provide training on accommodations, and better informing immigrant women about Quebec cultural norms.
But others warned of the danger of reading too much into what is essentially an isolated case.
"It's not like behind this woman there are 2,000 other niqab-wearing women who are about to make similar kinds of demands," said Daniel Weinstock, who, like Maclure, was a consultant to Bouchard-Taylor.
"These cases don't reflect the reality of what's going on out there. For every one case like this, which is problematic, there are a hundred that are dealt with in a very reasonable manner."
Thursday, May 20, 2010
Burqa Ban in France
Express, a publication of the Washington Post, has published an article called "Dueling Views on Liberty" about the potential ban of burqa or niqab in France. This article states that France officials are wanting to ban "extremism" and "terrorism" and that the burqa is a symbol of those two things. It is Frances opinion that these women need to be "freed" from the oppression they are suffering and that banning their face coverings will do that. Belgium has already approved a nationwide ban, that is now being considered by the Senate. The Swiss government has discussed imposing a similar ban. In the Netherlands, an anti-Islam party has also become a fast growing political movement. It's leader, Geert Wilders speaks loudly against Islam and wants the Quran banned in their country.
Where does all this hatred towards Muslims come from? Why all of a sudden in 2010, when these women have been living in these countries for years, being bothered about their relgious dress? Is anyone going to tell a nun she can't wear her habit? Are crosses to be banned??? Why is Islam being attacked left and right when other relgions are being left alone? Why are secular powers being allowed to take away the relgious rights of others?
Ever since September 11th 2001, has branded Islam as a violent religion, anti-Islamic literature and protest has drastically increased.
Muslims are constantly becoming more discriminated against and generalized as violent, radical people.
Those French and Belgium women are CITIZENS of those countries and are being treated like visitors, foreigners, or worse! Just because they are Muslims? Why all of a sudden are they not granted the SAME rights as OTHER CITIZENS? All other French and Belgium women are allowed to practice their relgious beliefs or lack there of....why are Muslim women being targeted???
May Allah help those sisters be patient and strong in their Deen....
K
Where does all this hatred towards Muslims come from? Why all of a sudden in 2010, when these women have been living in these countries for years, being bothered about their relgious dress? Is anyone going to tell a nun she can't wear her habit? Are crosses to be banned??? Why is Islam being attacked left and right when other relgions are being left alone? Why are secular powers being allowed to take away the relgious rights of others?
Ever since September 11th 2001, has branded Islam as a violent religion, anti-Islamic literature and protest has drastically increased.
Muslims are constantly becoming more discriminated against and generalized as violent, radical people.
Those French and Belgium women are CITIZENS of those countries and are being treated like visitors, foreigners, or worse! Just because they are Muslims? Why all of a sudden are they not granted the SAME rights as OTHER CITIZENS? All other French and Belgium women are allowed to practice their relgious beliefs or lack there of....why are Muslim women being targeted???
May Allah help those sisters be patient and strong in their Deen....
K
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
A Common Misconception about Islam
he media today spreads the misconception that Islam promotes "jihad" to spread Islam by the sword and kill all unbelievers. Unfortunately this claim is simply inaccurate and is causing a lot of friction between the Muslim and non-Muslim communities of the world. The word Jihad stems from an Arabic word which means "to strive". In some translations, Jihad is listed as a "struggle". Jihad simply does not mean "blow up the infidels". Jihad is a word that has been given a political and negative connotation; similar to other words in the evolution of our language. To say that one is involved in "jihad" is equivalent to saying "I am involved in a religious protest against abortion." However politically charged that statement might be; it is not considered dangerous, nor are you considered a radical. Jihad is simply pushing through a tough time in the name of Islam. Mohammed Ali was a participant in jihad, because he stood up for his religious beliefs and did not join the war effort, despite the consequences. The Quran, which is Islam's religious text, states that "persecution is worse than slaughter" and "let there be no hostility except to those who practice oppression" (Qur'an 2:190-193). Islam is a relgion just like any other, those who practice it have a right to defend themselves. If one is attacking innocent people, they are NOT practicing Islam, therefore one cannot look to them as an example of Islam. Terrorists might be killing people in the name of Islam, but they are not representing Islam, nor practicing it. Misrepresentation of Islam and its principles is something that causes much heartache to the people who know and love the true beauty of Islam.
Monday, May 17, 2010
Hijabi Haircut
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Bailey's Spa
This weekend in my exploration of Alexandria, I stumbled upon a hijabi friendly salon. As I made my way to Dunkin Donuts to get some iced coffee (yum)...I spotted a salon in the same shopping center. I walked in to get a brochure and check the prices; I was greeted by a lovely Egyptian woman. She exclaimed: "I was just about to go get you!". She had seen me parking and wanted to let me know that they had a private room for hijabis to get their hair cut. I was very happy however I have discovered in the past that spas that are hijabi friendly are also out of my price range. I smiled and grabbbed a brochure, willing to peek at it later. As I walked to get my coffee, I started to look at the prices. Very reasonable...$40 for a haircut.....$25 for a pedi......$15 for eyebrows.....I was sold. After getting my coffee and veggie scramble I went in to make an appointment for the next day for a haircut and an eyebrow waxing. As I arrived I was greeted by a lovely Pakistani woman. She said she was going to thread my eyebrows. As my heart jumped into my throat I protested that I wanted it waxed because of the pain. She said don't worry my hands are quick. She was so right....it didn't hurt very much at all, it was over in a few minutes, and the results were fantastic. This look could not be acheived by waxing. It is so clean and pretty! She then took me to the back to cut my hair. I then asked for a pedicure. Everyone took their time and made sure the job was done right. I also had great conversation with the owner's wife. I enjoyed visiting a Muslim owned salon and really can't wait for my next visit. I will try the massage next time! I'm so happy to have found a Muslim owned salon that is hijabi friendly and economical! :)
Salaam,
Katie
Bailey's Spa
This weekend in my exploration of Alexandria, I stumbled upon a hijabi friendly salon. As I made my way to Dunkin Donuts to get some iced coffee (yum)...I spotted a salon in the same shopping center. I walked in to get a brochure and check the prices; I was greeted by a lovely Egyptian woman. She exclaimed: "I was just about to go get you!". She had seen me parking and wanted to let me know that they had a private room for hijabis to get their hair cut. I was very happy however I have discovered in the past that spas that are hijabi friendly are also out of my price range. I smiled and grabbbed a brochure, willing to peek at it later. As I walked to get my coffee, I started to look at the prices. Very reasonable...$40 for a haircut.....$25 for a pedi......$15 for eyebrows.....I was sold. After getting my coffee and veggie scramble I went in to make an appointment for the next day for a haircut and an eyebrow waxing. As I arrived I was greeted by a lovely Pakistani woman. She said she was going to thread my eyebrows. As my heart jumped into my throat I protested that I wanted it waxed because of the pain. She said don't worry my hands are quick. She was so right....it didn't hurt very much at all, it was over in a few minutes, and the results were fantastic. This look could not be acheived by waxing. It is so clean and pretty! She then took me to the back to cut my hair. I then asked for a pedicure. Everyone took their time and made sure the job was done right. I also had great conversation with the owner's wife. I enjoyed visiting a Muslim owned salon and really can't wait for my next visit. I will try the massage next time! I'm so happy to have found a Muslim owned salon that is hijabi friendly and economical! :)
Salaam,
Katie
Monday, May 10, 2010
Sunday, May 9, 2010
A Positive Note
I did however have some support from some old friends of mine. I did think that these people had abandoned me and forgotten I existed because of my reversion. However this past week I received a facebook message from one of them asking why they hadn't heard from me and that they supported me no matter what and that they still loved me. I thought it was very surprising and it was heart warming. This weekend another old friend came and visited, and we discussed some things...catching up like nothing had happened. I was unconsciously avoiding them because I felt that they were rejected me for my changed religion and habits ( they drink/club/date etc...) and I just never asked the golden question, "Are we still friends?" I feel that one of my weaknesses is to avoid uncomfortable confrontations like that, and just avoid them. I feel regret towards this because apparently they were slightly offended I hadn't updated them about what was going on..I urge anyone who is reverting to Islam to confront the issue with people directly;they could surprise you. I really feel like we missed a lot of time because of this avoidance. I have known these people for 12 years, and I thought they would stop talking to me because I bettered myself???? I am just so stunned and ashamed at my behavior, and frankly a little embarrassed. I don't know why I am avoiding people I grew up with like the plague. I just feel so uncomfortable in hijab in my home town, and in front of people who knew me as a non muslim. I feel like I'm wearing a costume that they can see right through. Please pray that I will overcome this self conscious issue.
Salaam,
Katie
Salaam,
Katie
Hijabi in the Workplace
I'm really not sure what bothers me more this week at work; the comment that I "might be a terrorist", or the comment that at my job people might be "surprised" because of "how I look" (I talk to a lot of community officials/engineers and such), or the question I got from coworker that was just all around offensive "Does your face break out because of your scarf?"......NO IT BREAKS OUT because I'm 22 years old!...I mean do you believe these people?????? And they THINK they are being nice!!!!!! There is this one lady that CONSTANTLY asks me personal questions. I mean it would be ok if she didn't ask them in front of other people...and if she actually wanted to know about Islam...but I think she is just so damn nosy she has to ask...it makes me feel like she thinks Muslims are different kinds of people...I mean we all get off work, go to our families, eat dinner, wash, then go to sleep like anyone else. Al hamdililah I know this is my way of struggling for God's sake, but it is so annoying sometimes the absolute ignorance that people have towards other religions. All because of a piece of cloth that covers my hair. It is a literal barrier between me and other people. I don't understand how something as simple as clothing could cause such a reaction in people. If I wore hat on my head everyday would people ask me dumb questions like that?????
15th Annual Animal Welfare League of Arlington Walk
I went to this walk yesterday morning and I was very impressed with the event. I raised some money for this organization because they are a very respectable organization for the work they do. They take in animals that are abandoned or given up for adoption and care for them until they can find wonderful homes. I adopted my cat Cheeto from their and I love him so much and I feel like he was a life saver when I moved here to live on my own.
The walk was held at Bluemont Park, a stunning location. There are biking/walking trails, baseball fields, tennis courts, soccer fields and more. It also has an area to barbeque. I highly suggest coming here on the weekends for recreation. I will plan future barbeques at this park insha'Allah..
There were numerous vendors and I got a lot of free stuff! I can't wait to go again next year and I hope you will join me insha'Allah
The walk was held at Bluemont Park, a stunning location. There are biking/walking trails, baseball fields, tennis courts, soccer fields and more. It also has an area to barbeque. I highly suggest coming here on the weekends for recreation. I will plan future barbeques at this park insha'Allah..
There were numerous vendors and I got a lot of free stuff! I can't wait to go again next year and I hope you will join me insha'Allah
Wednesday, May 5, 2010
Hookah- Haram??
I want your opinions on Hookah in Islam....if you state your opinion please give references to back up your opinion.
Thanks,
Katie
Thanks,
Katie
Things to Do In D.C
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Camel Rides at the Maryland Zoo in Baltimore! Rides are $5 a person!
http://www.mnh.si.edu/ Smithsonian Museum of Natural History
Camel Rides at the Maryland Zoo in Baltimore! Rides are $5 a person!
Arts Club of
(202) 331-7282 www.artsclubofwashington.org
Capacity: Seated dinners for up to 90 (in one room) or 130 (on one floor), house and garden receptions for up to 300, seated service in the garden for up to 150 guests (weather permitting or with a tent); ceremony and reception can be held inside.
Hours: Tuesday to Friday 10:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. Saturday 10:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m.
(202) 842-0920 www.decaturhouse.org
Capacity: Courtyard--400 standing, 220 seated, 170 seated with dancing, 250+ theater style; Carriage House--250 standing, 150 seated, 100 seated with dancing, 180+ theater style; Entertaining Parlors--100 standing, 50 seated. Caterer required
Hours: Monday to Saturday, 10:00 am to 5:00 pm; Sunday, Noon to 4:00 pm
Meridian House
1630 Crescent Pl., NW
(202) 939-5592 www.meridian.org
Capacity: standing reception 300 standing, seated with dancing 200; garden use with tent may increase standing capacity to 500.
Hours: Tours are offered Monday through Friday from 10:00 am to 5:00 pm subject to house schedule.
Old Stone House
3051 M St., NW
(202) 426-6851 www.nps.gov
Capacity: Small, limited approximately 35 capacity. Wedding ceremonies are held in the garden behind the structure. Contact Brenda Hynson (202) 895-6012 with
Hours: Wednesday to Sunday, Noon to 5:00 p.m. (garden during daylight)
Sewall-Belmont House
(202) 546-1210 www.sewallbelmont.org
http://www.mnh.si.edu/ Smithsonian Museum of Natural History
http://www.si.edu/imax/shows.htm IMAX Theatre Showing A Journey To Mecca
http://www.islamiccenterdc.com/ The Islamic Center
This center has recorded khutbas if you miss jumma, as well as discussion boards and interesting videos.
http://www.foodcornerkabob.com/ Food Corner Kabob House
I went here last night after praying at the masjid and got the gyro. It was a wonderfully delicious meal, no sides needed. I want to try the lamb kabob because the naan was amazing and they use halal meat. There are three locations, one I believe has hookah available? No alcohol served (I appreciate that so much! I always feel like Muslims that sell alcohol in their restaurants are sell outs lol).
Tuesday, May 4, 2010
US Botanic Garden
If you are looking for something awesome, Earth friendly and free in the D.C or Northern VA visit the US Botanic Garden! It is beautiful and it is a great thing to spend hours for free! http://www.usbg.gov/
Sunday, May 2, 2010
Oil Spills
Salaam wa alaikum,
I'm sure you all have heard about the tragedy with the oil spills in the Gulf of Mexico. This is going to impact the Gulf fishing/shrimp industry and it will hit them very hard. I feel like this is a failure of responsibility on the oil industry's part. BP has still not stopped the tanker from leaking. If you are transporting/carrying something so dangerous.....over a medium of survival.....where are your safety regulations/precautions. Why haven't they stopped the oil from pouring into the Gulf? This is really making me sick to my stomach to think about. My environmental science department head ( who shall remain nameless) made a comment and prediction that if trends are to continue the worlds oceans will be empty in 50 years. Because of our lack of care for our resources....will it even last that long??????? Is making money so important that one would be willing to give up shrimp for the rest of eternity? Why aren't these people being prosecuted and held accountable???? If I was to ruin that many peoples livlihood, and destroy that much ecological treasure...I would be in jail!!! Why are these big companies not being held responsible for their actions. Just like banks....in this country banks are so corrupt. They use riba to become extremely wealthy....and the do not care about the people that are being evicted. I am so sick of the financial set up of this country. People are held responsible and fined for having garbage in their fenced in yard.....however if I dump a tanker of oil in the Gulf....I can get away with it????? If a doctor made a mistake that affected that many lives he would lose his license to practice......why should BP be allowed to be a business anymore if they cannot correct their mistakes. What is going on with this country????? I just don't understand the situation at hand, and why the big businesses are surviving in this economy...LET THEM FAIL! People work hard for their money and have it taken away by banks and big businesses. This corruption stinks.
Katie
I'm sure you all have heard about the tragedy with the oil spills in the Gulf of Mexico. This is going to impact the Gulf fishing/shrimp industry and it will hit them very hard. I feel like this is a failure of responsibility on the oil industry's part. BP has still not stopped the tanker from leaking. If you are transporting/carrying something so dangerous.....over a medium of survival.....where are your safety regulations/precautions. Why haven't they stopped the oil from pouring into the Gulf? This is really making me sick to my stomach to think about. My environmental science department head ( who shall remain nameless) made a comment and prediction that if trends are to continue the worlds oceans will be empty in 50 years. Because of our lack of care for our resources....will it even last that long??????? Is making money so important that one would be willing to give up shrimp for the rest of eternity? Why aren't these people being prosecuted and held accountable???? If I was to ruin that many peoples livlihood, and destroy that much ecological treasure...I would be in jail!!! Why are these big companies not being held responsible for their actions. Just like banks....in this country banks are so corrupt. They use riba to become extremely wealthy....and the do not care about the people that are being evicted. I am so sick of the financial set up of this country. People are held responsible and fined for having garbage in their fenced in yard.....however if I dump a tanker of oil in the Gulf....I can get away with it????? If a doctor made a mistake that affected that many lives he would lose his license to practice......why should BP be allowed to be a business anymore if they cannot correct their mistakes. What is going on with this country????? I just don't understand the situation at hand, and why the big businesses are surviving in this economy...LET THEM FAIL! People work hard for their money and have it taken away by banks and big businesses. This corruption stinks.
Katie
Saturday, May 1, 2010
Attention All Reverts To Islam
I am currently doing research for my study on Islam. If you are a revert to Islam and you would like to be interviewed for a study about Islam please email hijabigeography@gmail.com with your contact information and a brief summary of your story stating what makes your story/experiences with Islam special. Or if you just want to share your story. Thanks you and I hope that I am blessed with your wonderful stories insha'Allah.
Salaam wa alaikum,
Katie
Salaam wa alaikum,
Katie
Thursday, April 29, 2010
A Minor Workplace Acceptance
We are having a potluck at work....and I don't see any pork on the menu! ....My coworkers stepped it up masha'Allah....
I have just finished Living Islam Outloud: American Muslimahs Speak Out
by Saleemah Abdul Ghafur. I thought it was a very interesting book, however I do have some issues with it....
I feel like these women had bad experiences with Islam...which is more common for women than men unfortunately....
They discussed how women should have the right to sit with men in the masjid without a curtain or screen; and that women should not wear hijab because of social pressures and such.
I feel like their intentions are correct and that they are very good people and women and they are doing their best to promote women's rights.
However what I do disagree with is the fact that these women are taking certain peoples (namely certain men) and their interpretation of Islam, and letting it ruin their experience. Everyone knows their own relationship with God. No one can tell you how you rank in the eyes of Allah, or whether or not you are going to heaven.
People will tell you that you are doing things wrong in any religion. You have to listen to your heart and people that you trust for advice. Intention is the greatest indicator for me. If someone just wants to judge you...you can tell. If someone just wants to make themselves feel better about the things they are doing wrong...you can tell.
People will ALWAYS judge you. I know I should be looking in the mirror when I say this because actions/reactions of people do matter to me ...(more than they should God help me)....however...we should work to NOT CARE.
God is the only thing that matters. Allah will guide you to do the things that are best for you. I have trouble wearing hijab in my hometown. But I'm at peace with God because Allah knows what is in my heart.
I hope God gives us strength to not worry so much about peoples opinions of us insha'Allah...
I have just finished Living Islam Outloud: American Muslimahs Speak Out
by Saleemah Abdul Ghafur. I thought it was a very interesting book, however I do have some issues with it....
I feel like these women had bad experiences with Islam...which is more common for women than men unfortunately....
They discussed how women should have the right to sit with men in the masjid without a curtain or screen; and that women should not wear hijab because of social pressures and such.
I feel like their intentions are correct and that they are very good people and women and they are doing their best to promote women's rights.
However what I do disagree with is the fact that these women are taking certain peoples (namely certain men) and their interpretation of Islam, and letting it ruin their experience. Everyone knows their own relationship with God. No one can tell you how you rank in the eyes of Allah, or whether or not you are going to heaven.
People will tell you that you are doing things wrong in any religion. You have to listen to your heart and people that you trust for advice. Intention is the greatest indicator for me. If someone just wants to judge you...you can tell. If someone just wants to make themselves feel better about the things they are doing wrong...you can tell.
People will ALWAYS judge you. I know I should be looking in the mirror when I say this because actions/reactions of people do matter to me ...(more than they should God help me)....however...we should work to NOT CARE.
God is the only thing that matters. Allah will guide you to do the things that are best for you. I have trouble wearing hijab in my hometown. But I'm at peace with God because Allah knows what is in my heart.
I hope God gives us strength to not worry so much about peoples opinions of us insha'Allah...
Tuesday, April 27, 2010
Work Place: Part Two
I have been trying to work out how in the world I could pray doing work...so I have been missing prayers and making them up later esteghferAllah. I finally found help from some of my coworkers, I found a private area to pray! I feel so much more relaxed now knowing that I have privacy and the ability to pray at work...I didn't feel comfortable doing at work because of the people always ask me questions, and I would have had to send out a mass email about how "don't interrupt me bla bla". So neways...I peeked into the library that sits in the back of our building....and I asked nicely if I could pray in the back....they gave me stuff to kneel on as well as a "you shouldn't be ashamed to pray" speech. I'm not ashamed I just don't want to be disturbed and I don't have the patience to be constantly interupted because people at my job don't understand. I also feel uncomfortable doing wudu in the bathroom here. I just wish people were more accepting. May God help me grow stronger in not caring what people think of me. I do my job, I am a woman, I am a hijabi...can't people accept that????
Friday, April 23, 2010
Work Environment
There are people at my job that are just ridiculous. Every day I get asked things about being a muslim. Al hamdulillah, at least they are asking me to my face and not talking about me behind my back...but it is getting really annoying. Everyday someone asks me " Does it get hot in there?" talking about my hijab...or why do you wear that or "do you get hassled?". I feel so ostracized. I know it is with pure intentions and these people are just curious but it really makes me feel different. The people that are my age don't even talk to me like a normal human being. I guess it is because they are in the drinking stages of life...and the dating stages of life...the misunderstanding other cultures/religions stage of life. I feel like they think I don't enjoy my life...or have any fun....or that I'm naive or stupid and don't know what they know......
AH! Well at least some people here are respectful...there is one guy here that is very educated about Muslims...he isn't one but at least he is familiar....of course everyone else in the office does not like him...for SOME reason....
I also get asked a lot..."If your hair is nice...why do you cover it...why don't you let everyone see it.." ...because they don't deserve to see it! And I do not need to prove my beauty to anyone else!
Why is my worth in the work placed based on whether or not I'm beautiful or not...or what my hair looks like......or whether or not I have hair...
Why am I treated like a different kind of human being because of the clothes I wear???? Because I don't show skin? Because my cleavage isn't hanging out for all to see????
Why do people see these things as a sum of who I am...
and even if they do...why do they view modesty as a bad thing? Shouldn't they view me as a BETTER person...?
Does anyone else have work related issues like this???
AH! Well at least some people here are respectful...there is one guy here that is very educated about Muslims...he isn't one but at least he is familiar....of course everyone else in the office does not like him...for SOME reason....
I also get asked a lot..."If your hair is nice...why do you cover it...why don't you let everyone see it.." ...because they don't deserve to see it! And I do not need to prove my beauty to anyone else!
Why is my worth in the work placed based on whether or not I'm beautiful or not...or what my hair looks like......or whether or not I have hair...
Why am I treated like a different kind of human being because of the clothes I wear???? Because I don't show skin? Because my cleavage isn't hanging out for all to see????
Why do people see these things as a sum of who I am...
and even if they do...why do they view modesty as a bad thing? Shouldn't they view me as a BETTER person...?
Does anyone else have work related issues like this???
Thursday, April 22, 2010
Friday, April 16, 2010
Thursday, April 15, 2010
Arabic Class
I have started Quran reading class ( Learn the Quran from Scratch in 5 weeks) at the Mustafa Center. The welcoming atmosphere and the programs offerred by this masjid are amazing masha'Allah. Please come and support this masjid. Imam Zia is the one teaching this Arabic class and he is great masha'Allah. I will go to no other masjid!!!!!!!!!!! I have been welcomed and treated with complete respect and love. I feel completely welcome here!
Tuesday, April 13, 2010
Lonliness
I'm not sure how much of this is because of my own personality...or how much is because of my past...but I am just having a hard time making friends with sisters in VA. There are plenty of sisters that I meet; and plenty of them are VERY nice...I just am having a hard time establishing a lasting relationship. I think it is because most of these women are born muslim and I am a revert.
I am having no trouble at work befriending the non-muslims....of course that doesnt fill up my weekends because most of them drink.....
I just am not able to make it to the masjid as much as I would like and unfortunately that is limiting my friendship possibilities. Another thing is when I do go to the masjid.....sisters are either fully in prayer and concentrating....or in groups....I find it very intimidating to go up to a group of sisters....break up their conversation...and introduce myself.....make dua for me please!
I'm a chicken when it comes to introducing myself to sisters I don't know why....I'm intimidated by the fact that they were born muslim....
I just feel so unworthy of their company....... I don't know why I just feel so unworthy.....
I feel like reverts understand each other in the fact that we feel a little rusty.....or tarnished....
Like I'm not worth as much as people who were born Muslim...I just feel like such a fraud sometimes...because I don't know everything.....
AHHH!!! This is so frustrating and difficult changing your whole life...Please make dua for me ....God will make things easy for me insha'Allah....
I am having no trouble at work befriending the non-muslims....of course that doesnt fill up my weekends because most of them drink.....
I just am not able to make it to the masjid as much as I would like and unfortunately that is limiting my friendship possibilities. Another thing is when I do go to the masjid.....sisters are either fully in prayer and concentrating....or in groups....I find it very intimidating to go up to a group of sisters....break up their conversation...and introduce myself.....make dua for me please!
I'm a chicken when it comes to introducing myself to sisters I don't know why....I'm intimidated by the fact that they were born muslim....
I just feel so unworthy of their company....... I don't know why I just feel so unworthy.....
I feel like reverts understand each other in the fact that we feel a little rusty.....or tarnished....
Like I'm not worth as much as people who were born Muslim...I just feel like such a fraud sometimes...because I don't know everything.....
AHHH!!! This is so frustrating and difficult changing your whole life...Please make dua for me ....God will make things easy for me insha'Allah....
Monday, April 12, 2010
Tuesday, April 6, 2010
Mustafa Center and Dar al Hijrah
Salaam wa alaikum,
I have tried these two masjids in my area: Dar al Hijrah and Mustafa Center.
Dar al Hijrah
Dar al Hijrah is a beautiful masjid. They have a balcony for women and the the men are downstairs. The building is very majestic and neat and clean. There is a very decent amout of people that show up for every prayer. I have not stayed for any khutba or halaqa. There are a lot of events and even a school for children masha'Allah. The only comment I have is because the mosque is so big, it lacks intimacy.
Mustafa Center
Very small and difficult to find! I got lost trying to spot this from the street. Very small but so friendly and very clean and I got a sense of community from this masjid. Most everyone said their salaams to me and I just felt welcome. They also have a community board where you can post things without having to go through any admin. I will def come here again.
I have tried these two masjids in my area: Dar al Hijrah and Mustafa Center.
Dar al Hijrah
Dar al Hijrah is a beautiful masjid. They have a balcony for women and the the men are downstairs. The building is very majestic and neat and clean. There is a very decent amout of people that show up for every prayer. I have not stayed for any khutba or halaqa. There are a lot of events and even a school for children masha'Allah. The only comment I have is because the mosque is so big, it lacks intimacy.
Mustafa Center
Very small and difficult to find! I got lost trying to spot this from the street. Very small but so friendly and very clean and I got a sense of community from this masjid. Most everyone said their salaams to me and I just felt welcome. They also have a community board where you can post things without having to go through any admin. I will def come here again.
Saturday, April 3, 2010
Exploring Alexandria
As you all know; Being a Muslim involves taking care of the environment, and the world around us. I explored Alexandria today and realized that there is a Nature Conservancy two blocks away from my house! I had never known such treasures were near my own home. Please I encourage you all to explore! I spent the most beautiful saturday morning hiking in trails near my home.
Public libraries...such a wealth of information people do not access.
Coupons...only worth it if you would buy the product anyways...
Animal Welfare League of Arlington- I got my cat....it's awesome please DONATE DONATE DONATE!
Public libraries...such a wealth of information people do not access.
Coupons...only worth it if you would buy the product anyways...
Animal Welfare League of Arlington- I got my cat....it's awesome please DONATE DONATE DONATE!
Friday, April 2, 2010
Becoming a True Muslim
I believe that I am constantly becoming a better Muslim (everyone in general should be trying in my opinion). Being a Muslim is like going to school. There is always something you can do better, always a test you could have studied harder for, always some points taken off. This week, I have fixed one of the major flaws in my Deen and al hamdililah I am still alive. This week I cut something out of my life that has been bothering me for too long. I will not share what it is because that is between me and God, but I encourage you all to try it. As soon as I cut out this thing, I felt and immediate closeness with God. I had chills, kid you not. I started to pray afterwards and I felt so close to God. I still do at this very moment. Each time I think about this thing and get incredibly sad, some stranger starts a conversation, or smiles, or mentions Islam, showing me that God is always with me.
I struggle with being a good Muslim everyday. I state this to everyone from the bottom of my heart. There is always room for improvement. Until the sun does not rise from the east we are being judged on our deeds. Please make the best of this world. Every time you take action, you should do it for God. Every time I take a step, I try to look at the beauty God has created around me. I feel tearful thinking about the life I had before Islam was revealed to me. All of those actions I took feel like distant memories but at the same time they do not feel like my own. I am not the person I was two years ago. It is very scary to see that.
I remember as a child crying my eyes out because I wasn't "feeling it" when I went to church. I didn't know what was wrong with me...why I wasn't "religious". I just totally didn't think that I was close to God.
I struggle with being a good Muslim everyday. I state this to everyone from the bottom of my heart. There is always room for improvement. Until the sun does not rise from the east we are being judged on our deeds. Please make the best of this world. Every time you take action, you should do it for God. Every time I take a step, I try to look at the beauty God has created around me. I feel tearful thinking about the life I had before Islam was revealed to me. All of those actions I took feel like distant memories but at the same time they do not feel like my own. I am not the person I was two years ago. It is very scary to see that.
I remember as a child crying my eyes out because I wasn't "feeling it" when I went to church. I didn't know what was wrong with me...why I wasn't "religious". I just totally didn't think that I was close to God.
Thursday, March 25, 2010
Remedies from the Holy Quran
http://www.scribd.com/doc/17621/Remedies-From-the-Holy-QurAn
I'm not sure who put this together, but it is a wonderful compilation of remedies from the Holy Quran masha'Allah.
I'm not sure who put this together, but it is a wonderful compilation of remedies from the Holy Quran masha'Allah.
Monday, March 22, 2010
Interesting Links
Demise of Coral in Qatar due to the Internet...
http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20100321/ap_on_re_mi_ea/ml_un_saving_species
Farmer's Markets in Alexandria
http://alexandriava.gov/FarmersMarket
Green Spring Gardens Park
http://www.fairfaxcounty.gov/PARKS/gsgp/
The State Arboretum of Virginia
http://www.virginiawind.com/virginia_travel/arboretum.asp
Ladew Topiary Garden
http://www.ladewgardens.com/index2.html
http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20100321/ap_on_re_mi_ea/ml_un_saving_species
Farmer's Markets in Alexandria
http://alexandriava.gov/FarmersMarket
Green Spring Gardens Park
http://www.fairfaxcounty.gov/PARKS/gsgp/
The State Arboretum of Virginia
http://www.virginiawind.com/virginia_travel/arboretum.asp
Ladew Topiary Garden
http://www.ladewgardens.com/index2.html
Tuesday, March 16, 2010
Trusting God
As a new muslim, there are many things that I used to do, that I now know I shouldn't under Islam, and vice versa. As someone who has a non-Muslim past, it can be difficult to understand the reasoning behind the teachings of Islam. I understand it is supposed to to be part of my Deen that I do not question Allah, but sometimes there are things that are difficult for me to understand why I am supposed to be doing something; therefore it is difficult for me to change my ways. However, alhamdililah, Allah has generally delivered me some sort of answer. In my non-Muslim days Jinn bothered me to no end. I did not know what they were at the time, but my mother and I are both bothered by them. When I first became a Muslim, I started praying, and the amount of Jinn activity I was seeing/feeling actually increased. I was told this is because Jinn like to hear the Quran and prayers. However I did not want to be alone with them because I was scared. Even though I recited Quran and made duah for them to go away; I still did not want to be alone. I couldn't quite wrap my head around the fact that God would protect me from them, and if anything wanted to hurt me it was only because God deemed it possible When I moved to Alexandria, I was very worried about being alone, and since I didn't know anyone in the area, I could not call anyone to keep me company. I had to face the Jinn alone. My roomate Miri told me one time that I was NOT alone, and that God was always with me; always had been, and always will be. It took that statement for me to realize that God had been with me at all those other times, and that I was safe. I have never had them bother me since, and I have not ever felt alone. I know Allah is with me.
Monday, March 15, 2010
Green Living
"When the earth is shaken with a (violent) shaking,
And the earth reveals what burdens her,
And man says: What has befallen her?
On that day she shall tell her story...." (Qur'an 99:1-4)
As an effort to be a responsible and ethical muslimah, I am going to make a commitment to living my life in a more sustainable way. By not wasting my blessings and to desire less I am trying to develop my deen. I am a strong advocate of thrift stores/consignment shops. I believe in donating to them as well as shopping in them. Recycling/reusing/reducing is the best way for us to not be in this mentality of over-comsumption. America is very famous for their wasteful ways and greed and ability to consume. I do not want to contribute to that mentality nor practice. I will start a compost pile (even though I live in an apartment), grow some of my own food, and shop local products as much as possible insha'Allah. I will also try to purchase more sustainable, organic, environmentally friendly products. My mother has been able to purchase very cute outfits for me from the thrift store; she is a very good hijab finder masha'Allah. I have also furnished my apartment with second hand merchandise and have paid a grand total of $500. I have also discovered that it is my right as a renter in Alexandria, VA to have access to recycling containers. I am going to contact my apartment building about that because I have not been able to locate it. There are many benefits to going green. In a way, when we contribute to sustainable/halal/organic businesses we are allowing the Muslim community to flourish. We should not contribute to non-ethical business. We should channel our power into good business with ethical business practices and halal products.
For now here are some links that I found to help me out.
Composting For Apartments
10 Easy Ways to Go Green
Thrify Fun
Islam and the Environment
Islam and Responsibility to Environment
And the earth reveals what burdens her,
And man says: What has befallen her?
On that day she shall tell her story...." (Qur'an 99:1-4)
As an effort to be a responsible and ethical muslimah, I am going to make a commitment to living my life in a more sustainable way. By not wasting my blessings and to desire less I am trying to develop my deen. I am a strong advocate of thrift stores/consignment shops. I believe in donating to them as well as shopping in them. Recycling/reusing/reducing is the best way for us to not be in this mentality of over-comsumption. America is very famous for their wasteful ways and greed and ability to consume. I do not want to contribute to that mentality nor practice. I will start a compost pile (even though I live in an apartment), grow some of my own food, and shop local products as much as possible insha'Allah. I will also try to purchase more sustainable, organic, environmentally friendly products. My mother has been able to purchase very cute outfits for me from the thrift store; she is a very good hijab finder masha'Allah. I have also furnished my apartment with second hand merchandise and have paid a grand total of $500. I have also discovered that it is my right as a renter in Alexandria, VA to have access to recycling containers. I am going to contact my apartment building about that because I have not been able to locate it. There are many benefits to going green. In a way, when we contribute to sustainable/halal/organic businesses we are allowing the Muslim community to flourish. We should not contribute to non-ethical business. We should channel our power into good business with ethical business practices and halal products.
For now here are some links that I found to help me out.
Composting For Apartments
10 Easy Ways to Go Green
Thrify Fun
Islam and the Environment
Islam and Responsibility to Environment
Friday, March 12, 2010
Bank of America
I absolutely hate writing bad reviews. However I have been treated with absolute disrespect by Bank of America, and I really believe they are the most un-Islamic institution I have ever dealt with in my ENTIRE life. If you are Muslim and you are able to; PLEASE move your money elsewhere. They have forclosed on peoples houses that they do NOT have a mortgage on, treated people with absolute disrespect, refused to do their jobs, and have taken money from numerous people. PLEASE PLEASE so support to your fellow Muslims that have suffered and PULL your money OUT of Bank of America. They will not be able to stand without our support. They need to change their business practices. Someone is getting extremely weathly on other peoples expense. We need to stop it. Thanks
Katie
Katie
Monday, March 8, 2010
Exploring Alexandria: Part Two
My day started early because my computer was not working (plug?). I set out to the used book store to see if I could get cash or an exchange because I was bored out of my mind with no t.v or computer, (I'm writing this on my apartments public comp). So I set off to the Used Book store that seemed the most interesting. On their webpage it has their cat listed as manager, so I figured they would be pretty fun people. The store I checked out is called Already Used Used Books. It is in Alexandria and more information can be found on their webpage. I was delighted to find their space crammed with books, all looking in great condition, and a non weird smelling store (that is a first for used book stores!). While the owner looked through my books to see if she could arrange anything, I was attacked by their cat. And when I say attacked, I am exagerrated to make this funnier. I was scratched by their cat. They were so embarrassed and said that she never did this but she was 15 years old and that they were so sorry. Their apology was genuine and sincere. I really appreciated the way they acted and they even gave me a discount to boot. I scored 4 barely used books for $7 and some change.I also received over $20 in store credit for my trade in books. I recommend this place despite my injuries because for a book lover like me, I can score cheap books as well as get rid of my old ones. They have a huge selection and are very friendly people. Unlike a lot of used bookstores I have been to, they realize what books are desired and only stock them accordingly. I am under the impression you can also order books new/used through them. Thanks for reading everyone, Salaam wa alaikum!
K
K
Sunday, March 7, 2010
Adventures in Alexandria
Yesterday I took the liberty of exploring Alexandria. I found some truly wonderful things so I decided to share them with you.
Whole Foods- Had never been into a Whole Foods before (I know I'm so behind on the times). It was AMAZING! I had their breakfast bar (not bad at $6.99 a pound). I had the french toast, chicken sausage, and fried plantains. YUM!!!!!! While exploring I smelled a delightful coffee smell wafting from the grinder. I commented on this to the lady grinding the coffee, and she started raving about how great it was. It turned out to be a local roaster and she directed me about 5 blocks east. So my adventure started......
I set off walking towards the coffee shop, the sun was shining and I was very happy to be outside. I was wearing my matching hot pink hijab/sneakers so I was in a great mood! (bright colors make me so happy).
Eventually I wondered far enough to find Misha's......I tried a small coffee, and was instantly in love. I bought a half a pound of their Route 66 blend, and 1/2 a pound of their Yemen blend. I am actually drinking the coffee as I write this, I brewed it myself. The staff was extremely friendly and I really enjoyed chatting with them. Their beans are extremely aromatic, and slightly oily, which leads to GREAT flavor. You can get them ground if you want, although I suggest grinding them yourself if you can to retain the flavor longer. You can get directions and check out their shop at Misha's.
After purchasing my coffee I set out in the direction of King Street towards downtown. I came across more lovely shops, but the ones that stood out were Ten Thousand Villages. It is a fair trade shop that is a great store for making a difference. By shopping and buying their wonderfully unique hand crafted items, one is making a difference in someone's life. For more info TenThousandVillages.
I bought treats for my cat from this delightful pet bakery/shop...owner is extremly helpful and nice along with the staff.....Chateau Animaux.
Located at
101 South Saint Asaph StreetAlexandria, VA 22314-3123 (703) 518-5188
My next stop of the day was my favorite which ended in me ordering furniture for my apartment. I had visited countless furniture stores during the day and all were overpriced or ugly. I finally walked into a store in which every piece is like a work of art. Although his pieces aren't cheap, they are not overpriced, and beautifully handcrafted original furniture. It is located at Javawood
5601 General Washington Drive
Alexandria, VA 22312-2403
The owner is a very friendly man who loves to sell to people who love the furniture. He will also engage you in conversation. His name is Nico, and I will be buying plenty more furniture from him in the future insha'Allah.
I will be exploring more in the future so more to come insha'Allah. Thanks everyone for reading...Salaam wa alaikum...
Whole Foods- Had never been into a Whole Foods before (I know I'm so behind on the times). It was AMAZING! I had their breakfast bar (not bad at $6.99 a pound). I had the french toast, chicken sausage, and fried plantains. YUM!!!!!! While exploring I smelled a delightful coffee smell wafting from the grinder. I commented on this to the lady grinding the coffee, and she started raving about how great it was. It turned out to be a local roaster and she directed me about 5 blocks east. So my adventure started......
I set off walking towards the coffee shop, the sun was shining and I was very happy to be outside. I was wearing my matching hot pink hijab/sneakers so I was in a great mood! (bright colors make me so happy).
Eventually I wondered far enough to find Misha's......I tried a small coffee, and was instantly in love. I bought a half a pound of their Route 66 blend, and 1/2 a pound of their Yemen blend. I am actually drinking the coffee as I write this, I brewed it myself. The staff was extremely friendly and I really enjoyed chatting with them. Their beans are extremely aromatic, and slightly oily, which leads to GREAT flavor. You can get them ground if you want, although I suggest grinding them yourself if you can to retain the flavor longer. You can get directions and check out their shop at Misha's.
After purchasing my coffee I set out in the direction of King Street towards downtown. I came across more lovely shops, but the ones that stood out were Ten Thousand Villages. It is a fair trade shop that is a great store for making a difference. By shopping and buying their wonderfully unique hand crafted items, one is making a difference in someone's life. For more info TenThousandVillages.
I bought treats for my cat from this delightful pet bakery/shop...owner is extremly helpful and nice along with the staff.....Chateau Animaux.
Located at
101 South Saint Asaph StreetAlexandria, VA 22314-3123 (703) 518-5188
My next stop of the day was my favorite which ended in me ordering furniture for my apartment. I had visited countless furniture stores during the day and all were overpriced or ugly. I finally walked into a store in which every piece is like a work of art. Although his pieces aren't cheap, they are not overpriced, and beautifully handcrafted original furniture. It is located at Javawood
5601 General Washington Drive
Alexandria, VA 22312-2403
The owner is a very friendly man who loves to sell to people who love the furniture. He will also engage you in conversation. His name is Nico, and I will be buying plenty more furniture from him in the future insha'Allah.
I will be exploring more in the future so more to come insha'Allah. Thanks everyone for reading...Salaam wa alaikum...
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
Monday, March 1, 2010
Virginia and My Conversion
Well I have realized that as a Muslim I have given a lot up for God's sake.
Recently I have been contemplating the fact of how many LESS friends I have since becoming a Muslim. Of course one would say that I actually have more friends now because the friends I have are real now, which of course is true in a way. But only people who have altered their lives drastically, and experienced the people lost in the process, can understand what I am feeling right now. Basically, I am spending more time alone now, than I ever have in my entire life. This is because I have simultaneously lost friends due to my conversion, weeded out some innappropriate ones, or just lost anything in common with the others. I am not unhappy with my decision in any way...I just wish that I wasn't having to deal with moving to a new state, and a new job, with less friends! I mean I am trying to get to know people here. People at my job are very nice...but none of them are Muslims. And I run into people every day that are curious about the ways of Islam, and how I became a Muslim and all of that. But I still have yet to figure out how to make friends. And I also wish that I had friends that understood the convert part of me, the American part, the part that had to give up things from her "previous" life. I feel that is a necessary bonding experience. Not to say that I could not be friends with a person who was born Muslim. I just feel, that because I have experience the "other" side of things, I have things in my heart that a person who has never been there, would never understand. I still struggle with certain things, and I am not even close to being the Muslimah I would like to be. I just wish I knew I wasn't alone, I wasn't the only new Muslimah, staring at her empty apartmnet walls, wondering what it would have been like to live a blind life, ignorant of the truth around her.
Recently I have been contemplating the fact of how many LESS friends I have since becoming a Muslim. Of course one would say that I actually have more friends now because the friends I have are real now, which of course is true in a way. But only people who have altered their lives drastically, and experienced the people lost in the process, can understand what I am feeling right now. Basically, I am spending more time alone now, than I ever have in my entire life. This is because I have simultaneously lost friends due to my conversion, weeded out some innappropriate ones, or just lost anything in common with the others. I am not unhappy with my decision in any way...I just wish that I wasn't having to deal with moving to a new state, and a new job, with less friends! I mean I am trying to get to know people here. People at my job are very nice...but none of them are Muslims. And I run into people every day that are curious about the ways of Islam, and how I became a Muslim and all of that. But I still have yet to figure out how to make friends. And I also wish that I had friends that understood the convert part of me, the American part, the part that had to give up things from her "previous" life. I feel that is a necessary bonding experience. Not to say that I could not be friends with a person who was born Muslim. I just feel, that because I have experience the "other" side of things, I have things in my heart that a person who has never been there, would never understand. I still struggle with certain things, and I am not even close to being the Muslimah I would like to be. I just wish I knew I wasn't alone, I wasn't the only new Muslimah, staring at her empty apartmnet walls, wondering what it would have been like to live a blind life, ignorant of the truth around her.
Sunday, February 14, 2010
VA
1.Survived Snowmagaden.
2. Have survived 2 weeks of my job.
3. Was whistled at in my abaya (who does that?)
4. Discovered the repair man of this building is Muslim.
2. Have survived 2 weeks of my job.
3. Was whistled at in my abaya (who does that?)
4. Discovered the repair man of this building is Muslim.
Monday, February 1, 2010
Extra cash for taking surveys
Salaam wa alaikum...
I have been earning some extra money taking surveys online. This is a good website for earning a lot without spending a lot of time. If you do it everyday you get an extra $50 a week which considering it takes less than half an hour a day!
Check it out and let me know what you think
Inbox Dollars
I have been earning some extra money taking surveys online. This is a good website for earning a lot without spending a lot of time. If you do it everyday you get an extra $50 a week which considering it takes less than half an hour a day!
Check it out and let me know what you think
Inbox Dollars
Saturday, January 30, 2010
Alexandria, Virginia
Salaam wa alaikum everyone!
I am now an official resident of Alexandria, Virginia! I moved here because I got hired at a nearby environmental company...I love it so far! There are so many hijabis! There are also soooo many Arabic/Muslim/Halal restaurants and shops around here! There are also numerous masjids...I can't wait to explore them all! However it is snowing right now....:(
I did get to check out one....
Halalco
I would best describe it as a Muslim walmart.....the halal meat section is AMAZING!
You can get prepackaged meats and also freshly cut for you.....Very cheap!!!
I also ate at the restaurant there...had the lamb chops...they were perfectly seasoned and the naan was delicious.
They also have the best Islamic/Arabic media section I have ever seen!
Please check out their website....
I'll be further reviewing different companies insha'Allah...
Salaams...
Kate
I am now an official resident of Alexandria, Virginia! I moved here because I got hired at a nearby environmental company...I love it so far! There are so many hijabis! There are also soooo many Arabic/Muslim/Halal restaurants and shops around here! There are also numerous masjids...I can't wait to explore them all! However it is snowing right now....:(
I did get to check out one....
Halalco
I would best describe it as a Muslim walmart.....the halal meat section is AMAZING!
You can get prepackaged meats and also freshly cut for you.....Very cheap!!!
I also ate at the restaurant there...had the lamb chops...they were perfectly seasoned and the naan was delicious.
They also have the best Islamic/Arabic media section I have ever seen!
Please check out their website....
I'll be further reviewing different companies insha'Allah...
Salaams...
Kate
Friday, January 15, 2010
Places that have Haiti Earthquake Victims Donation
Islamic Relief - http://www.islamicreliefusa.org/emergencies/haiti-earthquake
Kinder USA - http://www.kinderusa.org/
Helping Hands - http://www.helpinghandonline.org/
ISNA - http://www.isna.net
ICNA - http://www.icna.org/
Kinder USA - http://www.kinderusa.org/
Helping Hands - http://www.helpinghandonline.org/
ISNA - http://www.isna.net
ICNA - http://www.icna.org/
Random Updates
Salaam wa alaikum everyone,
I am happy to update you on a few things...
1. I am going to volunteer at a Muslim sponsored Habitat for Humanity on MLK day insha'Allah
2. I am really enthusiastic about Quranflash.com LOVE THEIR website
3. Shukr online is having a great sale Shukr
4. I am having a PrimoModa sale for anyone that lives in the Greater Baltimore/DC/N.VA area that wants to come email me at katies_closet@yahoo.com
Another thing....
I KNOW AROUND HERE MASJIDS ARE PARTICIPATING IN HAVING COLLECTIONS FOR THE HAITI EARTHQUAKE VICTIMS. PLEASE GIVE SOMETHING NO MATTER HOW LITTLE. EVERY BIT HELPS AND WE DON'T KNOW HOW LUCKY WE ARE......WE ARE NOT STARVING AND WATCHING OUR CIHLDREN SUFFER....PLEASE DONATE TO ANY MASJID OR WEBSITE STARTING COLLECTIONS........
I KNOW IN THIS AREA DAR AL TAQWA AND AL RAHMAH ARE HAVING DONATION COLLECTIONS....
THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT I CANNOT AFFORD TO GIVE A LOT BUT IF EVERYONE GIVES JUST A FEW DOLLARS THEY WILL HAVE A SIGNIFICANT DONATIONS
THANKS EVERYONE AND MAY ALLAH BLESS YOU ALL
Salaam wa alaikum,
Kate
I am happy to update you on a few things...
1. I am going to volunteer at a Muslim sponsored Habitat for Humanity on MLK day insha'Allah
2. I am really enthusiastic about Quranflash.com LOVE THEIR website
3. Shukr online is having a great sale Shukr
4. I am having a PrimoModa sale for anyone that lives in the Greater Baltimore/DC/N.VA area that wants to come email me at katies_closet@yahoo.com
Another thing....
I KNOW AROUND HERE MASJIDS ARE PARTICIPATING IN HAVING COLLECTIONS FOR THE HAITI EARTHQUAKE VICTIMS. PLEASE GIVE SOMETHING NO MATTER HOW LITTLE. EVERY BIT HELPS AND WE DON'T KNOW HOW LUCKY WE ARE......WE ARE NOT STARVING AND WATCHING OUR CIHLDREN SUFFER....PLEASE DONATE TO ANY MASJID OR WEBSITE STARTING COLLECTIONS........
I KNOW IN THIS AREA DAR AL TAQWA AND AL RAHMAH ARE HAVING DONATION COLLECTIONS....
THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT I CANNOT AFFORD TO GIVE A LOT BUT IF EVERYONE GIVES JUST A FEW DOLLARS THEY WILL HAVE A SIGNIFICANT DONATIONS
THANKS EVERYONE AND MAY ALLAH BLESS YOU ALL
Salaam wa alaikum,
Kate
Sunday, January 10, 2010
Having a Non-Muslim Family
I'm sure you all have realized this by now, but my family is not Muslim. Every time I come to visit I have some difficulties, and I decided to write about them just in case any of you are in the same position.
1. Dogs
My parents have 2 dogs and they are very cute, but the one is a puppy and licks ALL the time! My mom does NOT understand that I have to wash before I pray....she thinks it is silly and that dogs are NOT dirty...
2. Jesus
Everytime my mom talks about the fact that Jesus died for all of our sins it drives me crazy...we usually end up fighting estegferAllah.
3. Not taken seriously
My mom acts as if Islam is a fad, as if I am just doing this because I met some Muslims and eventually I'll realize I was wrong and come back to Christianity...
4. The heartbreak of NOT having a Muslim family, of my family not being happy by my continued growing spiritual strength, and them not being happy that I have a stronger relationship with God.
I love my family dearly, and I do NOT want to fight with my mom, however it pains me to my core when she suggests that my reversion to Islam is not genuine...she also is sticking to her guns with Jesus crucifixtion thing which drives me crazy because my mom is a very intelligent and educated woman, she is just blinded....
However, I have gotten her to check out the English Qu'ran and some literature on Islam...we have also had some good discussions.......I hope that she will eventually see the light insha'Allah.
Please pray for my strength....
Salaams everyone,
Kate
1. Dogs
My parents have 2 dogs and they are very cute, but the one is a puppy and licks ALL the time! My mom does NOT understand that I have to wash before I pray....she thinks it is silly and that dogs are NOT dirty...
2. Jesus
Everytime my mom talks about the fact that Jesus died for all of our sins it drives me crazy...we usually end up fighting estegferAllah.
3. Not taken seriously
My mom acts as if Islam is a fad, as if I am just doing this because I met some Muslims and eventually I'll realize I was wrong and come back to Christianity...
4. The heartbreak of NOT having a Muslim family, of my family not being happy by my continued growing spiritual strength, and them not being happy that I have a stronger relationship with God.
I love my family dearly, and I do NOT want to fight with my mom, however it pains me to my core when she suggests that my reversion to Islam is not genuine...she also is sticking to her guns with Jesus crucifixtion thing which drives me crazy because my mom is a very intelligent and educated woman, she is just blinded....
However, I have gotten her to check out the English Qu'ran and some literature on Islam...we have also had some good discussions.......I hope that she will eventually see the light insha'Allah.
Please pray for my strength....
Salaams everyone,
Kate
Thursday, January 7, 2010
Clothing Has Been Added
Please check my website, clothing has finally been added to inventory....please check out katies_closet blog....
Links to the site are on this website..
questions, comments, inquiries and interest please email to katies_closet@yahoo.com
Hope to hear from you soon inshaÁllah
Salaams
Links to the site are on this website..
questions, comments, inquiries and interest please email to katies_closet@yahoo.com
Hope to hear from you soon inshaÁllah
Salaams
Tuesday, January 5, 2010
Hijabi @ the Musuem
I got an internship over the winter at the Smithsonian Musuem of Natural History al hamdililah. I was a little worried about wearing my hijab, and what people would think about me. My first day was yesterday and no one said anything although I thought I detected a little surprise in the supervisor's face when she saw me. I got along with everyone very well though so I was happy. Today when I was in the cafeteria I had a women say salaams and speak arabic to me because I guess she assumed since I'm Muslim I'm fluent in Arabic. I answered her question in Arabic however because I understood kef halik, and we talked a bit. I then explained what happened to a few fellow interns and then I got a rush of questions about hijab and Islam. I guess they had been holding it in since seeing me. I was pleased to answer their questions and talk about Islam with them. One of the girls had some experience with Muslims because she was Ethiopian. The women that spoke Arabic to me was from Eritrea. One of the interns that I explained hijab to was a man. Later when I wasn't wearing my hijab in my office he came in without knocking. Realizing his mistake without me telling him, he proceeded to look away while talking to me. I thought that was very respectfuul and I thought he must have been paying attention to what I said about hijab. That made me feel great. Anyways that was my exprience today...May Allah bless you all.
Katie
Katie
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